If you were to chat with a hospice nurse about the most common regrets that they hear from their dying patients, you’d often hear things like… “I wish I’d allowed myself to experience more joy and less fear and to take in the simple experiences of everyday life”. It’s unlikely, though, that you’d hear things like…“I wish I’d studied more” or “became more educated or knowledgeable.”

Why is that? The reason is simple:

No amount of acquired knowledge can help you to experience life more deeply, more authentically. In fact, acquired knowledge is that little carrot on a stick that’s been leading you away from this moment your entire life, keeping you in an endless loop of useless thinking.

Have you noticed? There’s always been a good enough reason to think about something else… something other than this. Mainly because THIS doesn’t require you to think about it at all. And of course, if you’re not thinking about this, then all you’re left with is reality, this naked moment and whatever core assumption you have about it… (which is usually based in lack).

The dying are so often full of regret because they too lived their life chasing this same carrot of acquired knowledge.

The only difference is that they no longer have the luxury of time to tell themselves that something else is more important… they no longer have the luxury of ignorance.

When you’re dying, you’re forced out of ignorance. Unfortunately, you don’t have very much time left to appreciate the beauty and quiet profundity that comes from silently witnessing what this timeless moment actually is.

Clarity and a liberated experience of life can never come through an intellectual event that justifies ignoring THIS one and only moment of reality. In fact, the only event that can ever truly matter is the one you’re in the middle of right now.

That might sound a bit cliché, but perhaps reality is cliché – and that’s why most people miss it.  After all, if reality is “too good to be true,” then it would make sense why most are drawn to what’s false.

So how do you come out of ignorance without needing to be forced to? How do you meet each moment with full awareness, so that your life is no longer being continuously skipped over?

Stop preparing.

Stop preparing to experience what’s next. Your preparation is your blindness. I’m not talking about dropping the practical need to make plans once and a while, I’m talking about dropping the need to anticipate what your experience will be like when those plans are underway.

When you anticipate your experience of life, your actual experience of life becomes ignored.

A prime example of this is when you interact with other people. How often do you find yourself preparing for your interaction with them? The only reason you would prepare yourself is to protect yourself… because other people, along with the rest of life, have been deemed unpredictable, unsafe, or untrustworthy in varying degrees. But have you noticed? When you prepare to meet another human being, you never really end up meeting them at all. You only ever end up meeting your preparation of them; your scripted version of them.

Imagine preparing to meet the reflection you see when you stand in front of a mirror. Would you really see yourself as it is once you found yourself looking at it?

You would see but you wouldn’t see.

That subtle layer of prepared projection would blind you from witnessing the brilliance of untouched, untampered reality.

In terms of actual happiness, actual liberated life experience, acquired knowledge can only ever offer you ignorance of them by continuously helping you to prepare for them.

Fortunately, it’s possible to make plans, but prepare for nothing. To connect with other people, but only ever meet yourself. To die to your thoughts about what’s next, and can come alive simultaneously.

So why is our core assumption about reality based in lack?

Why does acquired knowledge have such a seductive quality to it?

Why can’t we just BE, for God’s sakes?

In all fairness to the dying who are full of regret, they didn’t just randomly assume early on in life that reality was lacking and that continuously seeking a solution to life was a great idea. They came to that conclusion after assessing the world when they first entered it.

When you first enter the world, you feel unprepared. It’s apparent that you lack the understanding of what’s going on. At the heart of your experience, nothing is actually wrong, but your confusion and unpreparedness almost imply that something is.

This innocent misperception is what fuels the seduction of acquired knowledge and the illusion that peace can be found just around the corner. You begin preparing to handle life in the meantime until you round that corner. You begin living life “in the meantime.” Of course, seeing life through this lens means that everything that comes your way will always be interpreted as further evidence that reality is not quite right… just yet.

This is why we feel the constant need to be productive and why silence always feels so unproductive. Silence doesn’t get you anywhere and doesn’t give you anything.

All it does (if you stay with it long enough) is show you that there’s nowhere more important that you need to be and that you’ve already been given everything that’s actually worth having.

So if the dying stumble upon the gift of life by having time removed from the equation, then perhaps that’s something worth taking into consideration. We’ve all been trained to believe that having more time on this earth should be the goal. In reality, though, one moment out of time is enough to experience life for an eternity. After all, REAL life only exists in eternity… not in time.

It’s true that life isn’t worth living if you’re supposed to find its worth. You’ve likely realized that by now. The only alternative is to find out if its worth already resides in what was previously deemed to be worthless… not worth your time.

Time isn’t a given. You don’t have to experience it. The dying can confirm this.

Whatever it is about you that exists on a timeline is not really you anyway… thank goodness. And if it seems that there’s nothing that exists outside of a timeline, then that means you’re nothing… thank goodness. Being something is clearly overrated. Time is clearly overrated. Waiting to experience life is clearly overrated.

This is how the dying stop dying: they let go of the one thing that brought them to “life” and thereby let go of the one thing that can take it away: time.

If you happen to not have much time left on the planet, don’t worry, you don’t need it.

Just one moment is enough, isn’t it?

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